Something rich and strange
(I love The Tempest.) I always wanted to get married. And then I met the love of my life. I …
Tag Archives: thoughtfulness
The reason I’m not writing at the moment
at dear Zero at the Bone, is that I, Chally Kacelnik, am in the bad place. Or, rather, the feminist …
Working towards the positive
Feminism has, reasonably obviously, been useful to me in developing my thinking about the issues: reproductive freedom, gender essentialism, and …
Horror and humanity, part two
What leads people to diminish horror? It’s so hard to sit with events that make you utterly recoil. It’s hard …
Seeking justice, seeking history
One of the good things about writing a blog is that I have a record of what has been going …
Double binds and opportunities
Supposedly, feminists Hate men/Want to be men Are soulless/Are bleeding hearts Aren’t feminine enough to be taken seriously/Are too feminine …
Making noise
This one’s for my mamma. Making noise, verbally or otherwise, literally or metaphorically, is healing. It means making specific and …
Wishing for normal lives or satisfying ones
This just about breaks my heart: I would be fine with a gay kid! You can tell mine are going …
Vulnerability
Lately, I have been, shall we say, not particularly well. Life doesn’t stop if you’re not exactly at top functioning, …
Never forget where you came from
Identity and vulnerable social positioning aren’t necessarily constant things. You move. You grow up. Maybe your gender or sexual orientation …
Based on the colour of one’s skin
There’s a way of talking about race and racism that is really bothering me. It’s when people will interchange racial …
On being the first ones there
I’ve been thinking about “I was here first,” and all the world of trouble such a claim can bring when …
A narrow band of relevance
I’ve been feeling old of late. There are people born in 1995 who are living much louder lives than I …
Loving yourself, and the social value of putting yourself down
I have, shall we say, some rather atrocious self-esteem issues. If something I’ve made comes out of the oven undercooked …
On getting dressed
I bought myself nail polish for the first time ever the other day. It was blue and sparkly, and took …
