With a little bit of being parented, too.
Spilt Milk offers Thoughts before Father’s Day, a tribute to her dad I find very moving.
Blue Milk wants you to play gender stereotypes with her. It’s a fun game in which statistics, expectations and observations perform a merry dance in order to fit children in a box. Fabulous takedown of something that often leaves me speechless.
Arwyn of Raising My Boychick goes for gold with The misogyny of denying milk-making moms mental-health medication: ‘This “I don’t want to give you anything until you wean”? That’s not a careful critique of the pharmacological industry, that’s not an intersectionalist examination of the role kyriarchy plays in the creation of women’s mental health issues, and it’s not a sober weighing of the balance of “greatest goods” when faced with exposing a child to an ill mother or minute quantities of probably-safe substances. No, that’s nothing more than an ignorant, authoritarian, fucked up, misogynistic ultimatum.’
At Feministing we find Raising a Feminist/Raised a Feminist: A Mother’s and Daughter’s Perspective. It’s by Sil and Eliza Reynolds and on their relationships with themselves and each other as feminists.
My Kid Loves a Kyriarch is by Ruth Moss, posted as part of Arwyn’s Womanist/Feminist Parenting Primer series, which you should also check out. Ruth’s piece is on her struggles to raise her kid in a feminist way by herself and how this interacts with her ex-partner’s parenting.
You must read Pain as Discipline by Ouyang Dan of random babble. She tells us why hitting children as a means of “discipline” doesn’t work and the range of impacts it can have.
Next we have It’s Not About Me by Jay, guest posting at Feministe. Because a child’s choices and safety are vastly more important than a parent’s control over them.
Over at Hoyden is “How Can Feminist Mums Avoid Being Humourless Childhood-Ruiners?” Seems to me that a good part of feminist parenting is doing exactly that: giving children beautiful childhoods and helping them become strong people. Well, as long as we’re asking, Lauredhel and commenters count the ways.
Veronica of Viva La Feminista writes Be still my feminist mama heart…My daughter and the Emmys. ‘I affirmed her voice. And I think that is one of the most feminist things I can do for her as I help her find her way in this world.’ Thanks to Arwyn for suggesting this post.
Kate of Rebel Raising speaks truth in Is that child crazy? ‘How much of the time are children behaving in the way an adult would if their life were like a child’s life?’ Absolutely brilliant. Thank you to Ruth Moss for suggesting this post.
And this is from back in March, but the cutest thing: Melissa McEwan of Shakesville posts a fatherhood PSA in which a father helps his daughter with cheerleading practice.
By the way, if you haven’t seen blue milk’s 10 feminist motherhood questions series, do have a look.