The thing about dichotomies is that you can properly fit very few people into them, but it’s satisfying to try. When you’re placing yourself on the good side, and other people on the bad side, that satisfaction is sour and incomplete, because it’s not the entire truth of it.
You can live your whole life trying to be a good girl, according to anyone’s ideas of a good girl. You can be quiet, and polite, and dress just so, and be kind, and work hard, and desire that which you’re supposed to desire, and consume as you are supposed to consume. But you’ll never always and inevitably be that girl.
because you slip up
because someone wants to slot you into the other side
because standards of perfection are designed to shut you down
because desires are involuntary.
Nobody’s ever just one way or the other.